The other thing is you need to do better on dates. Pleasant is nice, and nice is boring.
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Anything that gets your circulatory system aroused gets the rest of you aroused, and that transfers to how people feel about you. Humans are very bad at understanding why we feel the way we do. The thrill of, say, racing go-karts, or the enjoyable burn in your muscles after a good walk, on the other hand, makes us feel differently about our date. A little competitive skee-ball or pool makes for a better date than just drinks. A walk in the park or going dancing is more arousing than dinner and a movie.
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That excitement, that energy helps build chemistry. Meanwhile, the other person is feeling the same way. So while getting-to-know-you questions about jobs and growing up are ok, getting deep into questions about passion or politics, when you first fell in love or what your dream vacation is like is far more meaningful. You get to know the person on a deeper, more honest level, and that increases that sense of connection between the two of you. I met this guy my second year of grad school when we randomly got assigned as officemates; we immediately hit it off and became best friends. Against that background I distinctly remember a bus ride which my new friend and I coincidentally both took to New York to see our SOs that first semester.
My social circle is still populated by people who are either paired up or as is tragically common in science profoundly undateable. When she comes to visit she works all the time in his apartment instead of going out. But then, if he actually wanted to leave her and go out with me he would have done it by now, right?
Every time I decide what to do I talk myself out of it within a day. I just have to somehow get over it, right?
Or, wait, maybe I need to stop overthinking everything and just do the experiment to know the truth? Grand romantic gestures make for great drama, but the reality of it rarely works out the way we hope… mostly because we expect the rewards without the consequences. But I digress. Our day to day situation directly filters how we perceive the world. And that, I suspect, is contributing to your situation with Office Bae. Your degree is the center of a singularity, and most of life is going to be just at the edge of the event-horizon.
That makes it much harder to meet people who share your interests. You have a graduate program to finish!
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Can they relate to that? Can they understand how that changes your priorities? This fucking guy. You two get along.
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One of the things that influences who we fall in love with and marry is proximity. Part of why actors fall in love with their co-stars is because they spend every waking minute with them. Like you do with the sweetie in the office suite. Grad school limits your dating pool, and this guy limits your field of view. What do you do about these inconvenient feelings you have? Should you confess how you feel? Well… game them out a little. What do you expect your confession to do?
Why is it important to get it off your chest? But is that likely to happen?
He can have a shitty relationship without also wanting to fuck you instead of her. How does he behave with you? Yeah, you guys talk a lot… but is it strictly platonic talk or is there a sexual edge to it? Does he flirt with you, even mildly or awkwardly? Does he make joking-but-not-really references about the two of you?
Or is it just that you two have an intense emotional but ultimately platonic connection? If you're into you date, make it known. Forget that tired crap about not showing your cards. Keep an eye out for these little tells to gauge whether or not your date is feeling it. Is his voice getting louder?
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