Wisdom is listening to other points of view rather than discriminating; to carefully examine facts even if they contradict our beliefs; to be objective rather than biased, and to always be ready to change our beliefs when opposite facts are presented to us. Certainty can cripple your wisdom, as I wrote here. Embracing a skeptical mindset will help you see life sharply. The path of just believing what you are told is easy. The path towards wisdom requires confidence, courage, adaptability, and patience.
The antidote for greed is generosity ; the one for hate is loving kindness. Letting go of your possessions and relationships requires wisdom too. They can contribute to your joy, but your happiness does not depend on them. You stop looking at what others have. You free yourself from owning or being owned. To know yourself is to accept yourself. Reflect without judging yourself.
Are you jealous? Are you always comparing yourself to others? Deep inside you might feel insecure, frightened, betrayed or threatened. Feedback will help you uncover blind spots so you can conquer them. To increase your self-awareness, you need to look outside, not just inside as I wrote here. People who score high in self-awareness know themselves well and understand how others see them too. Become your own standard. Learn to appreciate yourself for who you are, not for what you possess or your achievements.
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Comparing to other people is a lose-lose situation. Normal jealousy happens early in a relationship; it can be improved by improving the self-esteem of affected partners. Honesty is critical to stop early symptoms before they produce a jealousy outbreak.
Embrace trust as something fragile and imperfect, as I wrote here. Jealousy is about control; trust is about confidence and freedom. You cannot avoid feeling jealous, but you can prevent it from getting worse and worse. Looking at others for inspiration is not bad; the problem is trying to be like them. Reacting with emulation rather than envy is to open up to learn from others.
Each life is unique. Those who compare themselves to famous entrepreneurs end doing nothing. Choose your destination and take the learning route, not the shortcut. Envy and jealousy are not just lethal for yourself. They can also harm those around you. Sometimes you need to take a little bit of your own poison to realize that. Feeling the pain firsthand will help you realize the side-effects of your own behaviors. If you suffer from envy, interact with people that have dramatically less or more than you have. Live one day with a total budget of two dollars. Compare both experiences to see what it says about you when you experience the extremes.
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Jun 5, It comforts them, it soothes their worries, and finally, it rots their souls, allowing them to justify their meanness and their greed until they believe these to be virtues. Increase your self-awareness To know yourself is to accept yourself.
How to Avoid Jealousy and Envy from Poisoning Your Life
So, the next time you feel jealous, accept the feelings, yet change the way you think about the situation and be reasonable and wise. To love is to be vulnerable. George R. Yes, it is not easy, but you need to be willing to accept what is beyond your control and trust yourself to deal with the unknown.
Examples of “jealousy”
Remember, you are in the relationship, because you decide to love. It is a choice you make to love your partner and at the same time accept the risks without any qualms or jealousy. If you feel that your partner is doing something that is making you jealous, you can express how you feel and talk to them in a mature way.
You can also communicate it with humor, diplomacy or directly as long as it is respectful. If you are humorous, you can joke about how insanely jealous you are when your partner pays attention to someone else. Laugh with them as you say this, because it will take the pressure off the topic and will get the message across. When you are diplomatic, you can let them know that you love them a lot and know that they will never cheat on you.
And if you are direct, just tell them that you trust them, yet cannot control your feelings and want them to consider how you feel. One of the main reasons why people get jealous is that they have low self-esteem and insecurity issues.
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They tend to think that they are not good enough, their partner will realize this, and will leave them for someone else. You need to know that there is a reason why your partner liked you in the first place and got together with you. If you need some reaffirmation or appreciation, don't hesitate to ask for that too within reason of-course. The next time you feel jealous, remember that your partner is with you because they want to be with you because of your positive qualities. People tend to act jealous because of previous relationships too. You might have been hurt before and they might have cheated on you.
You have to move beyond your past and realize that you are out of that relationship and in a new one. The person that you are with is not your ex-partner. Understanding the roots, triggers and reasons for your jealousy is an important part of personal growth and maintaining a healthy relationship. Whenever you start feeling jealous, make a conscious effort to heal your old wounds, be more resilient so that your past does not affect your present and future. You must trust your partner, because you have no other option if you want to have a happy and successful relationship.
No one can control your partner and you have to let jealousy go. Having some control is not a bad thing, yet trying to control somebody for things over which you have no control, is problematic. Act in a loving manner in spite of feelings of jealousy you experience. The best thing that you can do is trust yourself. Trust yourself that you can love deeply and without any regrets. Trust yourself that your love will act like the anchor that will prevent your relationship from floating away.
This is not easy, but ultimately when you trust yourself, you trust whatever comes. You feel confidence that you will be able to manage even the most difficult situation, including a breakup or rejection.
In conclusion, jealousy may be destructive and serves as a poison in intimate relationships. If you follow the above suggestions and strategies when feeling jealous, you will be in a better position to build your relationship and deepen the trust. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. Don't Act On Your Feelings. Calm Down and Stay Vulnerable. Appreciate Yourself. Heal Your Wounds. Trust Your Partner.
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